Friday, February 17, 2017

Why You Should Love Yourself First

Before I begin, I'd like to point out the fact that I am by no means an expert on love or relationships. I do, however, believe that from the relationships I have been in, I learned a lot about myself. Particularly what I want in a relationship, what I don't want in a relationship, and also what I deserve in a relationship.

On a more personal note, I've had my fair share of relationship mishaps in the past — as many of us have. I've been heartbroken, I've been the heartbreaker, I've been given far less love than I deserve (and made the mistake of believing that's all I deserved), and I've been guilty of wondering if it was, in fact, me who was the problem.

But between having my first boyfriend at 14 to my current relationship at the ripe age of 23, I've thankfully grown and matured, made mistakes and learned from them, and recognized and nurtured the important relationships in my life.

Along the way, I found myself, accepted my flaws, and recognized my worth. And as soon as I did, as soon as I decided I would focus on myself, I ended up in a healthier and happier relationship than I could ever dream up.

I've learned, because of this, there is no love quite as powerful as the one you have with yourself. Self-love opens the door to a world of possibilities. Whether that's a romantic relationship, a friendship, a career opportunity, or anything else, you have the ability to make it happen.

"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world."
Lucille Ball

"Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are."
— Marilyn Monroe

"You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company."
Diane von Furstenberg

"You alone are enough, you have nothing to prove to anyone."
— Maya Angelou

"Believing in our hearts that who we are is enough is the key to a more satisfying and balanced life."
Ellen Sue Stern

"If you wouldn't say it to a friend, don't say it to yourself."
— Jane Travis

"Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness."
Deborah Day

"In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different."
— Coco Chanel

"Self-esteem comes from being able to define the world in your own terms and refusing to abide by the judgments of others."
Oprah Winfrey

"I am allowed to have healthy self-esteem."
Amy Poehler

"If you don't see your worth, you'll always choose people who don't see it either. When your self esteem rises, your life follows."
Mandy Hale

Have you started to love yourself? How did you learn to do so? What was the hardest part?

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  1. Ha I loved this article and really was able to relate to it when I was your approx your age and then I found the one. now a little over 13 years later we are still happily together and married. continue to love yourself and he will show up!

    1. Thank you, Stacey! You're totally right. Congrats on your 13 years of happy marriage :)

    2. There is power in self love. Your first priority is to love yourself first. This way you would be able to build yourself better and then relate with others well. Nice post.

    3. I agree 100%! Thank you so much for reading :)

  2. I completely agree. Self love is everything and paramount in finding true happiness and fulfillment. This becomes more and more true as you age and life reflects itself back to you. Love of self, then greater love follows in many capacities.

    1. It's so so true :) Thanks so much for reading, Connie!

  3. I love the article, self love is important

    1. Thanks so much for reading! It really really is :)

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    1. :) So important. Thanks for reading, Ewa!

  5. I think going through hardships either makes you or breaks you... tears you down or reveals your superhero strength. I've grown to love the woman and mother I've become because of those hardships. I definitely feel stronger because I've made it through life's struggles!

    1. Monique! Yes!! We learn so much about ourselves along the way (i.e. our strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, etc). And, hopefully, through all those experiences we grow. Thanks for reading :)

  6. This is such an awesome post. These quotes would be great to add in my bullet journal too. But I agree, self-love seems to radiate and draw in more positive things in relationships, careers, family. It definitely opens doors to beautiful things!

    1. Thank you so much, Laneic! I'm glad you enjoyed it! It's so true, happiness attracts happiness in all aspects of your life. xo

  7. I can totally relate with what you wrote! I love those quotes, they are really inspiring!

    1. Raluca, that makes me so happy! I'm so glad others can relate and hope the quotes are helpful :) Thanks for reading!


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