Friday, December 30, 2016

How to Slay in 2017

By Contributor Mara Santilli
Photo Credit: Taylor A. Mead

The new year is literally around the corner, whether you’re ready for it or not! That being said, don’t wait another second to begin your year of slayage. 2017 will be what you make of it, so start off all aspects of your life on a fierce note.

Here’s how to keep killin’ it for all 365 days:

1. Twerk it out.

New Year's is always about fitness resolutions, but if you’re no gym rat, don’t force it. Throw yourself outside of your comfort zone, and try an activity that you’ve never even thought about before this moment. My go-to sassy workout is a street stiletto heels class at Broadway Dance Center, but if that’s not you, give a Surfset surfboard conditioning class a go (at gyms across the country!), or join a running club like Shack Track and Field (yes, it’s a real thing: Shake Shack, indeed, sponsors a fitness-related activity) and just get moving in a way that you feel most yourself.

2. Clothe yourself in fierce.

The holidays likely brought some beautiful new clothes or some gift cards to make some beautiful new clothes happen. Have a few key pieces in your closet — and this could be your favorite work blouse, it doesn’t have to be club wear — that are 🔥 and pull these out when you really need to feel like there is music video smoke following you everywhere you go. If you require the brick-and-mortar experience, I always recommend Express or Charming Charlie for those fun, feel-good items, or if you’re feeling real fancy, try out hand-selected pieces from a personal shopping service like Stitch Fix or The Ms. Collection.

3. Quit holding grudges.

Mental well-being is just as crucial as physical to put your fiercest foot forward in 2017. I was reading an article on the train from the January 2017 issue of ELLE and could barely refrain from letting out a "YASSS" right there on the Metro-North Railroad when I saw the best quote about not waiting for people who have treated you poorly to apologize. It read, "Non-apologizers tend to walk on a tightrope of defensiveness above a huge canyon of low self-esteem — they just can’t listen to anything that’s going to set them off balance" ("Sorry is the Hardest Word" by Harriet Lerner). Taking a step back from the haters and moving forward with grace can be the most satisfying feeling on the planet. Can’t seem to kick that burning vengeful feeling in your gut after a breakup or parting ways with a friend? Check out a speakout group on a site like Meetup, where you can even create your own unique support group!

4. Don't deprive yourself.

Of your guilty pleasure foods, of embarking on a much-needed weekend getaway, of going out for drinks to catch up with old friends — the list goes on. Pick one time of day to treat yourself — to ice cream, a bagel, a cupcake, chicken wings, whatever — and devote the rest of the day to eating wholesome balanced meals (a meal and grocery planning app like MealBoard or ingredient delivery service like HelloFresh can help you there!) so you really will feel healthier throughout the day. If spending is your addiction, use an app like Mint to stay on budget if cash is tight. The coming year is all about letting yourself be a high roller and indulging in life’s simple (or not so simple) joys sometimes, but knowing when to reel yourself in like a classy gal.

5. Ask for a raise.

It’s time to be a boss and lobby for that bonus you deserve. One-hundred percent of women in the workplace do not get paid what they deserve, because women as a whole only earn about 80% of what men do. Catalogue your workplace fierceness so that you have concrete examples to take to your supervisor when you have the conversation, and before you go, consider signing up for a salary negotiation workshop sponsored by an organization like AAUW to give you that extra boost.

6. Communicate your goals and wishes, in all areas of your life.
My philosophy, in anything, is if you don’t explicitly state what you want, in something as easy as getting your haircut, you won’t be satisfied. (Call me insane, but I’ve politely asked a hairdresser to fix my 'do 3 times before leaving). This goes for friendships, relationships, your morning coffee, anything. A quick, 10-minute meditation on the Mindfulness or Headspace app may help get your mind in the right space with some healthy self-talk. You can also snag a copy of "The Power of Positive Confrontation" by Barbara Pachter to practice communicating peacefully but effectively and, therefore, find your fierce place.

7. Believe you are a queen.



It’s as simple as this: start every day with a subtle reminder of your most amazing qualities — it could be anything from your calmness under pressure, to your killer leg muscles, to your awesome computer skills (when in doubt think of that video of the confident little girl who stands in the mirror and gives herself a daily pep talk). Maybe blast your absolute anthem at the tail end of your morning commute (my personal jam right now is "That’s My Girl" by Fifth Harmony — go ahead, judge me — but if you throw on some old school Mary J. Blige, I’m all for that as well.) Confidence is the key to all else, and most importantly, the ability to slay the game!

And to you 2016...


Cheers to the most fabulous new beginnings!


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12 comments :

  1. You were right, these gifs are gold! Love all these resolutions, so great!

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    1. The gifs get me every time! Thanks for reading and happy happy 2017, Annabelle!

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  2. Love this! It's great to see some realistic resolutions (and the gifs are hilarious)

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    1. I agree! I think some of the most realistic resolutions involve making goals to change the way you think and reach your own personal happiness. Mara did a great job with this in a very funny, relatable way! So glad you loved! Wishing you a happy and healthy 2017!

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  3. Absolutely love this! Keep it up girlie!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading! Happy happy new year!

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  4. I love posts with gifs...Very motivating post. Happy 2017!

    Lauren

    www.thezenfashionista.com

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    1. Thank you so much for reading, Lauren! I COMPLETELY agree! Gifs always seem to draw me in because they're so so entertaining. So glad you enjoy them, too :) Can't wait to check out your blog and happy happy new year!

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  5. Hahaha this is awesome! Thanks for the tips. I definitely want to get on my grind and monetize more from my blog this year!

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    1. I'm so glad you enjoyed it, thank you so much for reading, Aundrea! That's a great goal and I wish you the best of luck with your blog in 2017! What is the link to your blog?

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  6. Haha I LOVE this post. Needed these reminders. I'm def asking for a raise and I'm putting it on my to do list to find a group or hour class on asking for a raise! Or Ted talk if it's like too cold outside haha jk. Very inspirational and I love all of the funny memes LOL!

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    1. Thank you so much, Kit! My friend Mara wrote it and she is the QUEEN of funny posts, especially ones that include gifs/memes. Ted talks are always a great option (especially when it's cold outside — actually haha). Happy new year!

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